Ronin, I would ask: Who installed your buttons?
Instead of being angry that they "pushed your buttons", can you shift that to thank them for showing you where your buttons are, so you can disconnect them?
As long as you have "buttons" you are giving your power and peace away to anybody who want to mess with you. Sometimes knowingly, and sometimes accidentally.
Profound statement here. It is why I am alone. I never have fights with myself. I have never known such peace. I am able to think clearly in this setting. I can truly know myself.Originally posted by ronin
I had to leave a good marriage to accomplish this but, it was the right decision for me.
No buttons were being pushed, we grew beyond that and held each other in honor. Just not sure I would make it through the eye of a needle in a partnership.
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"To learn who rules over you simply find out who you are not allowed to criticize" -- Voltaire
"Great minds discuss ideas; average minds discuss events; small minds discuss people."-- Eleanor Roosevelt
"Misery loves company. Wisdom has to look for it." -- Anonymous
as far i i know it was learnt behavior.a cycle i reqonise and choose to break.
i do come across as angry but it is more frustration.
my buttons rarely get pushed anymore.
i laugh in the face of adversity.
well try to when i can.
i dislike egotistical people who try to control you and i see this a lot.
it use to get me down but now i just let it go(more carefree).
but they still want to push your buttons.
maybe i just have a issue with authority?
I cannot control what others choose to do...I can only choose for myself.
Just try to push my buttons...but first you have to find them...they fell off years ago.
Sooz, I have Sun in Leo, Scorpio Rising and Moon in Aquarius...just a jumping off point...have spent years rounding out the edges, choosing to fly as an eagle rather than sting as a scorpion and balancing the fire and water signs...water hasn't put out the fire, just made it manageable while keeping the passion.
That sounds steamy.
"To learn who rules over you simply find out who you are not allowed to criticize" -- Voltaire
"Great minds discuss ideas; average minds discuss events; small minds discuss people."-- Eleanor Roosevelt
"Misery loves company. Wisdom has to look for it." -- Anonymous
That sounds steamy.
This is the hardest from of anger to dispel, as it seems so unjust, to be projected upon to facilitate a similar reaction when you have worked so diligently to be anything other...this happens ALOT in relationships, a hermits life is an easy one!
UNBELIEVABLE!
Just after I wrote the above my "new" bosses boss came over and made a very public scene, because I couldn't answer a question he posed....I am still shaking slightly now. I hate offices, what is wrong with people, I just dont understand :-(
I also hate seeing him bully others, they hide in fear, this is not right?
So I transmute this then......think about care bears again? Do I repress this then like the others as I have a family to feed?
If i try to ignore it, that is also repressing it.
If I confront it to stop it, that is reacting to it.
I just want to live in peace like any other normal person, the fight in me is very compelling, but sometimes dont we have to fight for what is right?
Confusing......?
How do I deal with this anyone, as this will only get worse?
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Calm is restored.
A spiritual test, a gift, i will pass this, forgive my previous bleating :-)
You are forgiven ! . . .(hmm, do I have that power?). . . . . Well, I forgive you.
And actually, in my mind, you did do (c). Your rant here - in a safe place- gave you an opportunity to release the pressure and shift your energy.
Caleb, I used to be the one cowering in fear,as you say, then I found another me, it was a strange me, a bit weird, and unconventional, but that was who I was, and I had to be who I was, not what others wanted me to be. I could easily be what, others wanted me to be that was easy, but being myself, so much harder at first, because I had no idea who this person was, that was trying to find her way out into the Light. However, the more I became that different me, the more I was accepted, the old me was easier to push around and go into the mould, but the new me, well it was a bit intriguing, but they weren't fearful of me, it was more a matter of that's just Colleen being Colleen, and if a bit hard to understand , well, Wolf khan says that's Colleen having a lost marbles day. So the more you are you, the more accepted and the least likely to try to push around. I don't fight back, I stand in my own honest Truth and let others come what may, if they can't recognise the Truth of who you are, well they are just not there yet. But my Self Hood is mine, I fought to find it and I love it as it is. Stand tall (in all my 5ft 4inches) and let Truth be what stands out. They wont fight you and cause anger, unless that is where they are, recognise that, and half the task is over.
The question in my mind is "have you ruled out a range of experiences by isolating yourself?" Are there challenges that will have to be faced at some later stage, postponed because you chose a path of solitude? Will the solitude fortify you against those challenges, or only delay them?
Whether you answer or not may tell us more about the path you are following.
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