And to your question.. I was being a bit unclear I guess, although to me it all made sense.
The quotes are posts from a thread in a semi public mainstream forum here in New Zealand, the OP in this case was the person in the first quote, making a thread by that quote. Then the replies, which included someone suggesting the song. Which I went off and played. And the autoplay on youtube came up with the next in line being the R.E.M song.
In the meantime, their came the selection of sour pants and trolls who came in to ask the OP pointed questions inferring that he deserved his pain, mainly because he was a man and men are to blame.
The words of the R.E.M song and the nasty comments from these others prompted me to make the comment in that thread.
And guess what, someone replied to say they had just copied my post onto their work noticeboard to remind them to be more compassionate with their words and thoughts.