Since I discovered that being loving does not mean constantly saying yes, constantly saving their day when they make the same mistakes over and over and worser and worser... I have found that sometimes you have to allow them to fall. Since I started becoming a bit wiser in this regard, I have seen two of my three sons turn their lives around in a clear positive direction and yet the third has decided he will go it on his own... go it along the same difficult lines of which I had to draw my line and stop supporting his self destructive behavior - what we call "enabling." In all of these cases I exercised my own free will and so have each of my sons. I like the idea we have freedom of self will.
i have a bad habit of wanting to save people from making mistakes , i know how it feels to be in a bad place , i had a nervous breakdown when i was 18 yrs old , and ever after i have tried to cushion people , break their fall , stop bad things happening , or bad feelings from taking over them .it is only with some wonderful counselling i have come to see that had it not been from my tumble into depression i would not have gained my strength and wisdom and closeness to the divine , therefore people must fall they must hurt and they must find themselves outside of comfort in order to grow and gain the tools needed to evolve . Still its hard for me to keep myself from rescuing ! but as i now see it it really is the reverse !![]()