Latest, impressive imo >
Feel this one will indeed help many other people, as it leaves little wriggle room self love wise. Imo will get shared a lot
Can you exspandey please
anyway...one of the most vital things to healthy development is 'validation' that what we feel, think, and value is not only rational, sane as in a reflection of reality but that it is important. The most dysfunctional of parents who thrive on the double-bind instill a sense of loss of self in their children by not giving due compassion and even 'agreement'. This is one simple but very egregious example that I saw a friend do to his daughter one day. She was very little, 4 or 5 probably and She said to her dad while riding in a car, "I'm hot. He responded, "Oh hell, you're not hot, you don't even know what hot is!" I was thinking in my head that my friend had no idea the damage he was inflicting on his innocent baby.
They learn that they cannot trust their essential sense of self because they have been invalidated. Speaking from personal experience it is the most painful of experiences. And when I see it visited on other innocent children it saddens me beyond words.
“But those who have been under the shadow, who have gone down at last to elemental things, will have a wider charity” - Herbert George Wells -