Yes thank you Frances I am well aware of other forums and what not , Like i said I am not in this for 15 mins of fame in the BF community, I am very discouraged by the attitudes of some on this site, and am sorry a lot of you will lose out in the end regarding what takes place in my situation, but I have had enough of this mud slinging . My past guest needs to get over it. thanks to all the nice people I have met here .