I am so touched by this organic sharing and healing...............
I intend to add to this too......
Just struggling for the right words at present.
So for now,
Much love I send to you all!
I am so touched by this organic sharing and healing...............
I intend to add to this too......
Just struggling for the right words at present.
So for now,
Much love I send to you all!
Bob (18th February 2015), Calabash (18th February 2015), Highland1 (18th February 2015), KosmicKat (19th February 2015), lookbeyond (18th February 2015), NANUXII (18th February 2015), Ria (18th February 2015), Seikou-Kishi (18th February 2015), Sooz (19th February 2015)
I've been following this thread with interest and with all of the jarring emotions that this subject incites. I, too, have been holding back...looking for the right words.
I haven't participated in the thread up to this point because the subject makes me almost mute. The words just won't come that can express my anger, my deep frustration, and my desire to help in whatever way that I can.
To see this rampant abuse of children going on in such a large way and among such a huge cross section of those in 'power' makes me feel helpless and depressed. These events may be in Great Britain, but similar things are happening here in the U.S. It's a very sad and telling condition of all of humanity at this point in our 'progress'. As someone has already asked earlier in the thread, what society preys upon its own young ones?
As a child, I was abused by my stepfather while my alcoholic mother looked the other way and pretended she didn't notice his constant lewdness directed my way. Looking for a way to escape, I told my father, and he didn't believe me. I felt betrayed and abandoned. There was no satanic element involved...just long-term dysfunction.
Out of it came a very strong survival instinct, creating within me a personality that learned to live with the 'elephant in the living room' that everyone saw but no one acknowledged or talked about...and a very undeveloped ability to choose functional and healthy relationships for myself.
The children involved in these atrocities will need so much loving care and understanding for a very long time. My issues are all sorted out now, but it took the better part of a lifetime to get to a place where I could even admit the abuse. Then came dealing with it... releasing it... moving on.
So, I sign the appeals and join the complaints...and I still feel mute and helpless because so much more is needed. I wish I had the power to save and heal all the abused children of this world. And, I do send them healing energy from my own little space on the planet... from my own heart-light ((((((((o))))))))
Breeze (18th February 2015), Calabash (18th February 2015), Catsquotl (19th February 2015), gardener (25th April 2015), Highland1 (18th February 2015), KosmicKat (19th February 2015), lookbeyond (18th February 2015), NANUXII (18th February 2015), Ria (18th February 2015), Seikou-Kishi (18th February 2015), Sooz (19th February 2015), Spiritwind (20th February 2015), The One (18th February 2015), Tribe (18th February 2015)
Thank you for sharing Calabash
from what i have seen of children in classes , having taught them self defence and having gone through this my self i feel that there is a " type " of way to get the message across without creating fear. I say this because i recall when i talked my way out of these situations , i did it with a confidense and that really snapped them out of it ..
going further into it a predator is usually trying to gauge the reactions of the child , if they get any idea the child will react in a way that exposes them they are quick to retreat. So in that moment if a child relates and realises and then becomes fearful then that may go against the child as they can become more of a victim. The very best preventative measure is to sence the danger way before you ever get close to it being a dangerous situation , then having the presence of mind to act by carrying out one of a few pre meditated responces.
the whole method , i feel , cant be presented as hard hitting .. that can cause a child to go the other way .., there are ways to teach them to sence things that dont feel right. Kids have fantastic radar , its already built in , they just need to understand how to negoitiate it and that makes it all the more digestable for them.
i did create a lot of " Ninja Turtle " games to help children sence and identify " incorrect patterns " in behaviour. It was presented as a game so fear didnt come into it ..
i hate to draw this similation but i got the idea from a puppy ( weird i know ) there was a puppy dog that hung around one of my classes .. it belonged to one of the parents , it would come up to play but when you went to pat it , it cowered in fear .. it did not have the right response to playfulness because it felt disempowered by the difference in size of a person compared to such a small puppy dog.. so i devised a way for this puppy dog to join in the class , so i trained this dog with the children and taught them how to sence the dogs mood with games.
i taught them to respect the puppy , to teach it commands and to second guess its responces. this medium was very well accepted and adopted. Its amazing how the children healed the puppy from fear and learned how to respect it. Suffice to say i asked the owners wo participate along with the child that was sometimes poking fun at the puppy at hoime.
if you are fearful in a situation , it will rob you of your mental clarity and ability to think through the problem or make you react in a hostile manner which can work negatively , most pavlovian responces are to cower when fear hits.. these are hard wired into our mental matrix proportional to our accumulated and inherited DNA matrix. The difference to automatic responces in accumulated and inherited is the intensity and quality of training to oppose incorrect pavlovian responces for particular situations.
Tactical responces are far better to teach children , or adults for that matter.
The hard hitting part is saved for physical training however i would not paint the picture of a preditor, i always taught the student not to give the predator any personality and to treat them dispassionately. This really disempowers the predator when they sence the potential victim is not giving a fearful respoinse. Tactically this gives a huge adavntage to the student.
i can keep going on but as you can see , there is a myriad of ways to help guide our children , education is Key to a better future for all.
N
Bless you and Ditto
Spiral of light
So, I sign the appeals and join the complaints...and I still feel mute and helpless because so much more is needed. I wish I had the power to save and heal all the abused children of this world. And, I do send them healing energy from my own little space on the planet... from my own heart-light ((((((((o))))))))
Breeze (19th February 2015), Calabash (18th February 2015), Highland1 (18th February 2015), KosmicKat (19th February 2015), NANUXII (18th February 2015), Seikou-Kishi (19th February 2015), Sooz (19th February 2015), Spiral of Light (18th February 2015)