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24th December 2013, 02:59
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Such is Love
Cause and effect aren't really the words to use, the realistic words to use are “The way of all Flesh”.
These are words written in past times on walls, to be felt or seen or heard, as words to be pondered upon. The life signs of the now say we need to move on to love, these are wisdom of ages, but need they still not be challenged in open discussion as to what kind of love, or whose to get it , or whose to give it, or is this just stupid, because all we ever wanted was the love we feel in our hearts.
To down tools, saying all there is is love, was the statement of the first to realise that love imminently was all there is, but to use it now as the finalised, strict lifetime need, is the wrong use of words. The judgements of one person over who loves you or doesn't, comes from life experience. To ask the first one you meet, “Are you really loved”? Would realise so much emotion, that you would need to heal yourself after speaking to some one, who believed they were not loved by their family.
The kindest way to explain unconditional love, would be to say that if you are loved without the need to open your own heart back, is to be loved, by your own self, first and foremost for in that, is the purest love of all – that doesn't require you to spend money, or give of yourself or spend time with yourself. Then no one else has to keep the need to you love in order to survive.
The farthest from unconditional love is to need the father and mother of yourself to love you, no matter when or how or why, yourself gave them so much heartache, that it became each day the first or last thing in their own lives to keep inside themselves, the fury, that what you did will remain forever as the lost love, you had no need to lose. Their own love was so deep, that up till then, it wasn't possible for them to stop loving you.
We feed love to ourselves, in ways so often not noticed. The finest love of all challenges no one to comprehend the need to give it to you, IT IS, that's what love is. The attitude that, not ever will I love you, till you show me what yours is, is why we don't listen to ourselves, so that we will know how much that person loves me is the first and foremost thing to bring to our own realisation of our own self worth.
Now we need to love some one for themselves alone. Does it matter the circumstances under which they live, or care about themselves, they are someone able to give you love, but not under the banner of unless you are nice to me, will I return the favour; or I'll love you when you stop being the prize twit; or when I feel I might need you – the list goes on.
Have yourself begin to see in Mongoloid children, not the unfortunate family of them, but instead the living hope of love everlasting in someone incapable of choosing to love or not, they are always just themselves, unless ill-treated, and that is what we are as well, the result of ill treatment or everlasting love, which is it to be for you??
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24th December 2013, 17:32
#2
My Ponderings: Most humans are "looking" for love in all the wrong places (as the song lyrics go).
Love isn't out there, somewhere, waiting for us.. . . It's in our hearts, we generate it. And it's only completely lasting and fulfilling if there is no judgement - no strings attached.
No expectations = no disappointments.
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24th December 2013, 17:50
#3
It seems to me that when people are "looking for love" they are looking to have a very deep set of needs met that are very poorly understood by the person with the needs, if at all.
How many psychological, emotional & societal problems arise from this vast abyss of ignorance ?
The things we will do as individuals to avoid looking at this head on is mind blowing, this deep primal painful need, this blind spot that we expect the perfect "other" to fulfill, to appease, to quieten.
No wonder there are so many divorces, no mortal can fill that need, it requires something else, something beyond & something within, it is not the "other" who break our heart, its our unjust expectations, expectations often placed there by others or learnt by imitation as an infant, unless of course one arrives here with "it", the sense of "missing".
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24th December 2013, 17:51
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