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    Quote Originally posted by Aragorn View Post
    This is not true. I've got someone with BPD in my life for about 19 years now, of which we were very close friends for about 10 years, and we're still friends today, albeit not closely anymore. They most certainly do feel compassion and they certainly can feel remorse, but compared to other people, it does take much more to trigger those responses within them, such as being brutally confronted with the consequences of their actions.
    I would not really agree, but your mileage may vary. They seem to deflect any responsibility for their actions and I've not seen any true remorse, many people say the same thing. It's more like they might momentarily feel sorry for behaving awfully, but they're not that sorry about you getting hurt. It's about them always. Where is the compassion when they treat people like crap?

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    Quote Originally posted by Wind View Post
    Quote Originally posted by Aragorn View Post
    This is not true. I've got someone with BPD in my life for about 19 years now, of which we were very close friends for about 10 years, and we're still friends today, albeit not closely anymore. They most certainly do feel compassion and they certainly can feel remorse, but compared to other people, it does take much more to trigger those responses within them, such as being brutally confronted with the consequences of their actions.
    I would not really agree, but your mileage may vary. They seem to deflect any responsibility for their actions and I've not seen any true remorse, many people say the same thing. It's more like they might momentarily feel sorry for behaving awfully, but they're not that sorry about you getting hurt. It's about them always. Where is the compassion when they treat people like crap?
    What you have to keep in mind is that when their BPD kicks in, they enter a state of psychosis, and as such, their experience of reality becomes heavily distorted. It's not a permanent state of mind, but rather something that comes and goes.
    = DEATH BEFORE DISHONOR =

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    Quote Originally posted by Aragorn View Post
    What you have to keep in mind is that when their BPD kicks in, they enter a state of psychosis, and as such, their experience of reality becomes heavily distorted. It's not a permanent state of mind, but rather something that comes and goes.
    It's like a flip of a switch and it can happen any time, there's no stability.

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    Quote Originally posted by Wind View Post
    There's so much I could say about this as unfortunately I have the experience and the scars on my soul to prove it. It takes a long, long time to recover from such an experience with someone who has BPD. It's such a devastating condition, basically people with BPD are radioactive. If you get too close, your soul will get radiation sickness and maybe you won't die, but perhaps the outcome will be even worse. On the outside such people can be so sweet and caring, intelligent, funny... But intimate relationships triggers their condition. The partner, friend, children become the outlet for their emotional problems and boy do they have those.

    The external object meaning the family member is "expected" to regulate their emotions, which of course is impossible and once they're no longer idealized they can become the devil due to splitting. Also people with BPD are not truly capable of loving anyone, nor trusting or respecting because they don't have a sense of self until they've found it again through therapy and chances are very low that people with BPD ever get into therapy. Also they do see other people as objects which honestly is quite frightening, it has something to do with lowered empathy. They do have empathy, but they are not really able to put themselves into the other person's shoes. Their own needs and emotions override everything, the have endless needs and they're never met. There is no compassion to be found in them.

    Unless they've been in therapy long enough and even then BPD is not exactly cured because it's who they are, they just can get more self-aware and won't be so impulsive and destructive. As it is Cluster B personality disorder it's not too far away from narcissistic personality disorder. Both conditions are extremely devastating, but narcs are just literally demons from hell. There's no hope for them. Although with borderlines I could say that their soul origin is not human either to put it mildly, I've seen that there are forces taking control over the person with no self, and those forces are not good. I've seen it in the eyes, the blackness and it is one of the most terrifying things I've ever seen. Narcissistic/borderline rage is horrifying, it makes you even fear for your life.
    This sounds all very familiar to me, i have met a few people like that

    When i first moved to Mexico around 5 years ago, i was hosted by a friend for around a year and a half, she was a bit crazy but in the fun way, until it wasn't. She started doing weird stuff, like demanding too much attention from me, constantly being angry one hour and next hour perfectly happy, loving me to no end and treating me like her sister, then at night she would go ballistic over any simple thing, like me forgetting to wash the dishes or stuff like that, then one day we were asleep and she somehow woke up and started screaming that she could not invite anyone because i was living there, and she went all crazy, then next hour she was crying asking me for forgiveness and to please not leave and that everything would be normal and stuff. It never happened, things continued to happen until i moved away to my own apartment around a month or so later, i truly believed she could kill me on my sleep on one of those crazy moments

    Also she was extremely demanding, way more than me, in that everything had to be perfect, she did not display emotions otherwise if something wasn't 'perfect', but it would come up later on after a few weeks, like she would never forget about the issue, as ridiculous as it may have been

    I think one of the problems was that we got too close, and she started considering me as family, so she kind of let the front go away and showed her true self, down to the very core instincts and feelings

    One day i went to get water around 3 am, to the kitchen on the first floor, and when i was going up she was standing on the stairs, i got scared because it was like seeing a ghost lol, just standing there on the shadows at the very top of the stairs, then she did not say anything and went back to bed... Was she checking i wasn't going to run away at midnight?

    There are way too many other things but it kind of progressed slowly towards that crazy environment, at first it was all just normal and perfect happiness, but then it was all about her needs and anything that was wrong, it was about how it affected her and that was it, no care for anything or anyone else

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    I know what I've seen and some things you will never forget. Demonic possession, that's all I'm going to say.

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    I had a gps that I couldn't get to work and it pissed me off so bad, I got a hammer and my daughter and I went outside and we smashed it to pieces. It was fun!

    Another very good therapist:
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    “To seek self-knowledge is to embark on a journey which ... will always be incomplete" - courtesy of Godel's Incompleteness Theorem

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    I understand this person: Someone looking for something they think they deserve but never acquiring it, instead to her, what she has experienced is a neverending barrage of abuse. The inevitable result is what she presents in this rather stupid video:

    “To seek self-knowledge is to embark on a journey which ... will always be incomplete" - courtesy of Godel's Incompleteness Theorem

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    She has dead eyes unless those are contacts. A deadly chipmunk.

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    Her eyes were weirding me out, too. I suspect they're contacts.

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    Quote Originally posted by Dreamtimer View Post
    Her eyes were weirding me out, too. I suspect they're contacts.
    Updated statistic: With psychopaths and sociopaths taken together they comprise 4% of the population. Consider that: 1 in 25 people... Buyer Beware!
    “To seek self-knowledge is to embark on a journey which ... will always be incomplete" - courtesy of Godel's Incompleteness Theorem

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    That was the population remaining in Beau's analysis who would die on their mountain rather than surrender their arsenals. And I do mean arsenals.

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    This is riveting ... seems dumb but they go deeper. It gets to the deeper psychological aspects of this character. Definitely not political.

    “To seek self-knowledge is to embark on a journey which ... will always be incomplete" - courtesy of Godel's Incompleteness Theorem

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