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    that sounds familiar too...I always swore by my intuition as extremely good, UNTIL...Trump started bragging abou his...It really made me second guess myself. I suppose his intuition is very good but his is very self-centered and sponsored by the demonic.
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    You can have good intuition and still be a morally bankrupt person. It's just an innate human ability though not same as conscience.

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    Quote Originally posted by Wind View Post
    You can have good intuition and still be a morally bankrupt person. It's just an innate human ability though not same as conscience.
    And there are also lots of people who choose to remain guided by their intuition when their intuition is completely wrong and has already repetitively proven itself to be. This is often the case for narcissists who think they're smarter than everyone else ─ like Trump.
    = DEATH BEFORE DISHONOR =

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    I would never let a person like Trump affect whether I follow my instincts.

    In fact, I try to let him influence me a little as possible.

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    Joseph Campbell - Does mythology imply that life is suffering?

    "It is the suffering that evokes the humanity of the human heart."

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    I'm going to share something quite personal, which I probably normally wouldn't... However, since I've already shared quite many things about myself on this forum then why the hell not this too. About a year ago in a dream state (for a lack of a better word) I saw a vision or a lesson about loss and letting go. I was shown that I would eventually have to let go of two of the most important things to me in this world. Those two being my dog and my mother. I pondered about that and just thought that how on Earth could I accept something like that. I knew I would have to, but I thought that it would probably be something that I will have to deal with in the (hopefully distant) future.

    A year later my dog is now gone and I'm not so sure about the state of my mother's health. I hoped that my dog would have had more time, but life has it's own ideas and reasons. The only thing we can do is to accept that as incredibly hard it may sometimes feel. For me mortality is a strange thing. I've been in terms with my own mortality for a long time, but to me the loss of a loved one has always been one of my main fears and hardest emotional issues to face. Consciousness is fundamental and eternal, just as we are. Yet in this world of forms we have to let go of forms.

    All of it is so tragic and I suppose it's what makes it beautiful too. Were so invested in this life emotionally and that's the whole point. Yet attachments create suffering too. Everything we love will fade away and eventually we will have to let go of ourselves too, or at least of the idea of ourselves. What are we to do when life can feel so overwhelming at times, especially during times of crisis?

    The Art of Mindfully Letting Go With Buddha's Four Noble Truths

    Twenty-five hundred years ago, the Buddha was like the first psychologist, teaching his followers about the power of changing their mental processes in order to alleviate emotional discomfort and embrace change. One of his insights were the four noble truths that helped people free themselves from the patterns of thinking and behaving that perpetuate their suffering.

    By looking at these four central tenets of Buddhism we can better understand how micromanaging our circumstances can cause us to become agitated and restricted. Instead, when we learn to let go of our attachments we can transform our lives in an innovative way.

    The four noble truths can help us break out of the need to be in control and, instead, enter into an acceptance of the present moment. Only in the present will we find the courage to cross the threshold of the unknown and relax into the changes we cannot avoid. I find it helpful to take a mindful pause throughout the day and check in with one or more of them. It's a lovely compass to follow.

    The first noble truth: In life, there is suffering, because of the impermanent nature of things.

    Because we feel more secure when we have a sense of predictability, we develop a great capacity for denying a simple truth: that nothing stays the same. Then the unpredictability of life shows us that even if we do everything "right" and exercise every precaution, we can still face unexpected loss.

    When this happens the shock can make it hard to regain your equanimity and exercise nonreactvity. Too often, rather than surrender to the inevitability of change and work creatively with it, people resort to the fear-based behavior of trying to take charge and force other people and situations to conform to their expectations. The first noble truth of Buddhism is a reminder not to slip into the avoidance behavior of denial. While it's not wise to create gloomy thoughts about how matters might take a turn for the worse, consciously ignoring the reality that all situations transform sets you up for a great shock when that time comes.

    The second noble truth: Suffering is due to attachments and expectations, to grasping and clinging.

    Your inability to avoid change may make you angry, sad, and frustrated. It can be hard to let go of the false belief that the only way to achieve happiness again is to regain what's been lost. Even when you know you can't reverse the situation, you may agonize over this reality.

    Clinging to what once was, avoiding the process of grief and acceptance, causes paralysis. Grasping for a future set of circumstances identical to the past holds you back from discovering what better roads lie ahead, outside of your sight. The desire to backtrack or reconstruct will likely result in your walking around in circles, lost in the dark woods, instead of peering around corners to find new paths.

    The third noble truth: It's possible to end suffering by giving up attachments (clinging) and expectations (grasping).

    The shift in perspective that comes when we recognize that there's no such thing as a permanent sense of happiness begins our healing from suffering. The next step is to accept that we must broaden our definition of what we need in order to be happy, giving up the habits of clinging and grasping, as well as the need to control external circumstances.

    After emerging from the shock of a great loss, we're even more despairing about the possibility of being joyful again. However, the third noble truth offers us the promise of a new way of living that's as satisfying, if not more fulfilling, than the old. It beckons us to begin the process of transformation.

    The fourth noble truth: The way to end suffering due to clinging and grasping is through balance and living in the present.

    It's important to balance a thirst for something better with an acceptance of what is, right now. Balance allows you to live in the present moment and trust that your acceptance will clear the mist of confusion and distractions, and show you the way to move forward into happiness again. Here's the paradox of change: until you can accept what is, you cannot move into what might be.

    When we cling to the past or what no longer serves us, we contract ourselves to the point where we're unable to be nourished and invigorated by the present moment. We have to accept that what's past has truly passed in order to open up to what the present moment offers us. In this opening we become nourished, refreshed and revitalized.
    Love is a strange thing. Yet it is the foundation of everything. As Joseph Campbell said, it bears all.

    "But by now my desire and will were turned,
    like a balanced wheel rotated evenly,
    by the love that moves the sun and the other stars."


    ~ Dante, Paradiso

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    Ain't that true.


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    oh those sensitive souls..existential angst is a heart killer...
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    It took a minute to recognize Woody Harrelson...I'll bet that came from his soul...he has had a very strange history.
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    That is beautiful. If he wrote that I'm highly impressed with him.

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    Quote Originally posted by Wind View Post
    Ain't that true.

    Yes it is!
    Whatever is true. Whatever is noble. Whatever is right. Whatever is lovely. Whatever is admirable. Anything of excellence and worthy of praise. Dwell on these things. Jesus Christ (I agree)

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    Quote Originally posted by Wind View Post


    put this aside to watch later, huge backlog of vids etc atm, need another lockdown lol

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    Quality over quantity, Aianawa.

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