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    Prayers for Blue

    My little cat got hit by car Thursday. Weirdest thing...he always likes to come around for walks with me and his dog-sister Kalia, and it always gave me a heart attack, I knew the day would come. What made it so weird was how I felt it happening before it happened. Before he left sidewalk I felt like he was going to run in front of the car... he was about a step or two from being totally crushed, as it turns out he ran into the side and smashed his face, fracture in jaw, can't tell the head injury trauma yet but he seems like a pain-meded beat up version of himself, not any apparent neuro damage, superficial injuries on leg...like he caught the corner

    He's been hospitalized since, the $$$ is reaching the point where decidsions become tougher...too much more and I won't have to worry about whether he can eat cuz I won't be able to afford to feed him or my fam (without begging the fam for a handout or something). GOing into work to catch up now, its been difficult to concentrate. WHen I am done I will go see him and decide whether or not to take him home. They are sort of pushing bringin him to surgeon, if the consult is reasonable I may do that to see if it can be avoided, and if not makes the decision easy, there's no way I can afford that (and the care required after). It's a unusual fracture they say, maybe it can heal on its own. UGH

    Added bonus: I broke up with his "mom" awhile ago but we stayed close...until New Years when I met someone else and we stopped communicating. She still has feelings but I am into this new girl, so it's been good that we stopped communicating. I don't know what to do here, she never really took care of him and basically treated him like guests do, give him a little love when he came up to her face and say how cute he was when laying around but really not too much else...so I don't feel COMPLETELY obligated to let her in on this, but feel kind of guilty for not just so I can avoid drama. It's been a rough week, send some good vibes my way please.

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    Oh...I'm so sad for you and the sweet kitty. I hope it works out well, however that is.

    I'm happy for you that you're in a new relationship. As I recall the other girlfriend was unstable. I hope this one is stable and good for and to you.

    Prayers and blessings for Blue.

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    Quote Originally posted by donk View Post
    It's been a rough week, send some good vibes my way please.

    You got it man, and for Blue as well, so sorry to hear about this. These are gut wrenching decisions...
    The unexamined life is not worth living.

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    sorry and good vibes to you...
    "We are one thought away from changing the world!"

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    Blue's in my prayers, too.

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    Best wishes for you and Blue. Hope all goes well.

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    Quote Originally posted by donk View Post
    My little cat got hit by car Thursday. It's been a rough week, send some good vibes my way please.

    I am with you on this Donk...just awful for you! Cats are such wonderful companions to have around you.
    Last edited by Elen, 20th January 2018 at 17:11.
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    Dear Donk - good vibes for you and Blue are flooding though the ether. Cats are the most wonderful of beings ...

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    Meditations for you and Blue...
    "Holding onto anger is like drinking poison and expecting the object of your anger to die” ~ Anon
    "When you come to a fork in the road, take it." ~Yogi Berra
    "You can observe a lot by just watching." ~Yogi Berra
    “When I die, I want to die like my grandfather who died peacefully in his sleep. Not screaming like all the passengers in his car.” ~Will Rogers
    "If life gives you melons...you might be dyslexic" ~ Aixelsyd Dnarber

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    Sending Blessings

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    If I was in this position I'd be losing it. All my best wishes are with you and Blue.

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    You have my prayers too.

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    Thanks for all the love.

    As I replayed the visit with him Friday night as I left Work Saturday afternoon to get outside to the park to enjoy the nice day, I realized how terrible and selfish I was. I beat myself up for the next hours for being manipulated by emotions, blonded to the simple fact that my cat got hit by a car because he couldn’t stay contained in my relatively large house, the friggin box they’re keeping him in (in excruciating pain) is torture, as will be any kind of “life” he has during the treatment/rehab I couldn’t afford

    I held him while he was put out of pain Saturday night, held his broken body for a little while after he left it.
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    Quote Originally posted by donk View Post
    Thanks for all the love.

    As I replayed the visit with him Friday night as I left Work Saturday afternoon to get outside to the park to enjoy the nice day, I realized how terrible and selfish I was. I beat myself up for the next hours for being manipulated by emotions, blonded to the simple fact that my cat got hit by a car because he couldn’t stay contained in my relatively large house, the friggin box they’re keeping him in (in excruciating pain) is torture, as will be any kind of “life” he has during the treatment/rehab I couldn’t afford

    I held him while he was put out of pain Saturday night, held his broken body for a little while after he left it.
    I am so sad to hear about your loss. I have had many pets and some have had to be put to sleep. It is so hard to bear the pain of our fragile bodies breaking. On the other hand, I have NO DOUBT that Blue's consciousness is as alive as ever. I have comfort from my imagining that I will always know my friends wherever we are.

    Living in the place I live, cars drive very fast even though it is NOT a road but a common driveway. and so far my cats have all avoided them. My dearest friend Buddy a Pit bull mix...so smart and so gentle, had a deep hatred of the sound of my neighbor's jeep and I have no fence in my front yard. The front door was open one day when he heard the jeep and with all his might he charged the vehicle and ran after it and under the back wheels.

    I was and still am wracked by missing his presence in his beautiful form. I can still feel his head on my knee and see his brown deep eyes looking into mine. He was like your Blue the victim of machines that drive by. people are wrecked too and all in all, the machines of transportation are crude and our frail bio forms no match to metal. But this context does not discount another... LIFE IS and IS FOREVER in varied states of self awareness. That means grief I feel is just for now and just here IMO.

    Blessings to you and happy journies to Blue. Love, maggie
    Last edited by Maggie, 22nd January 2018 at 19:09.

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    I'm sure you did what was best for Blue.

    You have my deepest sympathy.

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